Establishing the right parenting plans that work can be very complex when you separate from your partner. One of the most important things to remember is how minimise the emotional burden that your child/ren may endure.
In this article we take a look at considerations that need to be made when setting up your parenting plan. In particular, we investigate effective parenting plans that work from the perspective of child psychologists and marriage counsellors.Have Questions? Read our FAQs
The first thing that should be considered in any co-parenting plan is finances. If an agreement isn’t made at the start of the process, it could lead to issues down the track. If both parents are financially stable then splitting expenses is the simplest approach.
Expenses to consider would include clothing, allowance, food, medical costs, and education. We’ll delve deeper into the nuances of post-separation education in the next section.
Many parents may differ in regard to the topic of their child/ren’s education, after separating. Each parent may want to transfer their child/ren to a school that’s nearer to them, so that they can, spend more time with the child/ren.
To avoid such an issue, it’s highly recommended that the child/ren stay at the same school they already attend. Not only will this prevent arguments during the school selection processes but it will also help the child/ren cope and maintain their group of friends.
Another area of dispute amongst separated couples is holidays. Specifically, which parent the child/ren will stay with during holidays. The ideal solution is to have the entire family together on important occasions but this isn’t always possible.
You might think that parents of different religions may cause an added difficulty, but it can actually make things easier in some cases. If the mother is Catholic and the father is Jewish then the child can stay with the mother on Christmas and the father on Hanukkah.
Finally, medical concerns are also something that should be worked out. If one parent has a background in medicine, it would be wise to let them handle all related matters since they’re the most qualified to do so.
Of course, in case of emergency, whichever parent is with the child/ren should be the one to take them to the hospital immediately. Instilling healthy practices such as good nutrition and regular exercise should also be a priority for both parents.
Just because you’re separating, that doesn’t mean that your child/ren has to suffer from a decision that they didn’t cause nor request. If you take note of things we covered above then you’ll be able help your child/ren cope with the separation.
Finding a suitable parenting plan will be easier if the separation itself is handled in a simple, civil manner. Split Easy helps you create parenting plans without expensive of divorce lawyers, through a simple online questionnaire.Have Questions? Read our FAQs